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Douglas/Elbert County Legal Advocate
Parenting Beyond Consequesnces, Parenting Paradigm
Using research about brain chemistry, this parenting paradigm teaches parents the most effective way to intervene with children who are dysregulated and acting out of control. This model focuses on maintaining connection with a child throughout the process of addressing negative behavior patterns.
Parenting Beyond Consequences has been developed for use with traumatized children who have suffered abuse and/or loss. The Parenting Beyond Consequences model is an ideal match for the clients served by WCFOC because it creates a format to discuss why traditional parenting styles (including corporal punishment) are often not effective with traumatized children and sets the groundwork for building and/or strengthening the parent-child relationship, which has often been damaged when domestic violence exists in a household.
“Parenting from a love-based paradigm means going beyond our children’s behavior and beyond consequences to first see that negative behavior is a form of communication and that negative behavior is a response to stress. If we see the kicking and screaming child as one who is having difficulty regulating due to an overflow of feelings, we can learn to stay present with the child in order to help him modulate these feelings and thus, help him to build his emotional regulatory system.”
“The more we can stay focused on the relationship with our child and strengthening this relationship instead of controlling it through consequences, the more we will be helping our child learn to work through their stress appropriately.”
Heather Forbes, LCSW Author of “Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control”
WCFOC offers Parenting Beyond Consequences instruction to clients in a group setting as well as incorporating key concepts into work with individual children, parents and families.